* The names were changed
I went to bed at 9:45 and Will stayed up with Alia last night. I woke up at 7:20, turned around and gave Will a massage on the head, neck, shoulders and arms. Will just turned to make it easier for me to reach him. The baby came in the room about 20 mins later so Will turned his back to us and went back to sleep.
I played with Alia in her room for 1 hour, reading books and playing with educational toys. I then asked Will if he was planning to take a shower this morning. He said I could go first. I said I would wait until he is up so that he can better take care of Alia. I went downstairs with her to watch saturday morning cartoons. Will came down a bit later and said that I could go take my shower. While I was in the shower, Alia started banging on my door and crying. After a bit, it stopped. When I came out, she was laying in bed with Will as they watched Beverly Hills Chihuahua.
Will then took his shower while I got ready and fed Alia breakfast. She ate toast with PB&J. I offered to make Will breakfast but he said he would just have cereal and also made himself a toast. He went on the PC for a while then watched TV. I asked if he could get something out of the car for me. It was at the road so he went with Alia for a short walk to get it while I swept the food that was on the floor all week.
Around 10:15 he stated he was going to go get a haircut up the street. It takes 7 mins to get there by walking. I cleaned Alia's two toy boxes and put all the puzzles back together, blocks in their container, all toys parts back together etc. I then colored with Alia and then made some homemade playdough and we played together for about 45 mins with it. I called Will at 11:45 to ask where he was. There was no answer. I then cleaned the baby's closet and stored the cloths that didn't fit her anymore. I washed the sheets and filled the dishwasher for a load.
The phone rang at 12:23, Will was calling to ask what I had called for. I told him he was gone for over two hours and was just wondering where he was. He said they were very busy at the barber and that he was on his way. He arrived around quarter to one pm. He put the boxes I had prepared in the basement for me, then he went to watch Rocky.
I came down with Alia and she went to the pantry and pointed at the ruffles chips. He tried to hide them from her at my request. Then she went to him and cried for them. He almost gave them to her. I told him not to feel bad for her not getting chips but he should feel bad for the fact that she doesn't have enough vitamins. I gave her yogourt with vitamin powder and kraft dinner with milk to drink.
He watched Rocky as I cooked him some wings, fried rice and onion rings for him. I served him his food, he ate and then left his plate with leftover food and empty pop can on the counter as he continued to watch Rocky. I continued cleaning and then cuddled with Alia on the sofa to give my back a break. I then put Alia to bed, brought the laundry down to fold it, emptied the trash and dishwasher, emptied the fridge from all the tupperware and leftovers past date. I then refilled the dishwasher for a second load.
Will brought the trash bag outside and folded the laudry as he watched Rocky. I then made a grocery list and asked that he get the items for me. He asked if I would prefer going since I knew where stuff was in the store. I told him that I prefer he went as I still had things to do in the house. He went to leave and then came back upstairs to shut his skype off. He never does this so I am assuming he doesn't want me see something. Seems like the only way I can get some help is to send him to do errands. I had also asked him to pick up a shelf at Ikea but he didn't want to do this errand.
I used this time to write in the journal and now I am going to wash the floors. Will returned with most of the items on the list and sat down to watch TV. He left the items on the counter for me to put away. Soon after Alia woke up. I asked him to bring her to me as I was eating ice cream. She had my last scoop. She then ate half a pint of blueberries. I then had to get the desert ready for the party at Marissa's.
I cooked the tart shells and got the homemade glaze cooking while I cut the strawberries in slices. By the time I had to pour the hot glaze over the strawberry tarts, Alia wanted to be in my arms. I had to ask Will to please come take care of her as I didn't want her to get burned.
He said: ''Yeah'' in an annoyed voice and slowly came to the kitchen where he proceeded to say: "Come with me, come here" over and over in a disengaged voice. She didn't listen and just clinged to me more. She didn't want him to put the dress on, he had managed to get the head in but not the arms. He finally decided to chase her and she started laughing but still clinging to my legs.
At one point, she let go of my legs so I tried to run away so I could get my stuff done but she had grabbed one of my legs as I was leaving and ended up falling down. I picked her up immediately and asked her if her arm was hurt because it was tucked in the dress and I couldn't tell how she fell on it. Will got upset and said: Well YEAH! and started to criticise me. I interrupted him and said: Do I critize you?? I keep my mouth shut on everything!!! He backed down and said sorry but in a reactive way. He then went to sit in the living room and let me finish getting the baby dressed then I distracted her while I finished the desert.
At 5:36, I told Will that I really needed him to take Alia for the last 24 mins as I had to get ready for the party. He did the same thing. He didn't take charge of Alia and she wanted all my attention. After about 15 mins, I managed to sneak down to the first level to heat my hair straightener and clean the entrance a bit. Shortly thereafter, she came downstairs and wanted to be in my arms.
Will was busy watching Rocky. He had been glued to the TV all day because it was a Rocky marathon (1 to 6, uncut commercial free). I told him that I had asked for 24 mins and couldn't get that, and that I now am asking for 10 and need him to take Alia outside or do something that would distract her from needing to be in my arms. (She is always trying to be in my arms. I say no and refuse at times when it is excessive but she just cries with her arms extended to the sky and hugs or taps my legs non stop). He sighed and said he would go get the car then.
He took her for a walk to the road and brought the car at our front door. He sat in it with her until Marie arrived. I came out with the desert, purse and baby bag. He said that he decided to just stay home as he has work he has to finish with Steve. I knew the work could wait but said nothing. I would have prefered he came as I could have had a bit of help at least when it came time to eat.
It was an ok night but again, trying to eat with a baby and a big belly in a large family gathering is not the easiest. She wanted everything until it was on her plate. Then she wanted something else. She wanted to roam up and down the stairs or sit at the pc with the rolling chair. I was constantly having to jump out of conversations to deal with her.
When I returned it was nearly 9:00. I asked Will how his work went. He said that he didn't do any of it since Steve hadn't finished his part yet (surprise!) but that Rocky 6 was excellent. I asked if he had had supper. He said no. I offered to cook him something, he said he would just have cereal.
I got Alia ready for bed near 10:00 as she had had a very late nap. Then I went to bed and read my Bible. Will came to bed a little while after. I had cream ready close by and used it to give him a 30 min full back, shoulder, neck, arm, face and head massage. During that time, he stated that Elizabeth, the massage therapist, in Africa was able to fix his back for a few weeks. He wondered if Chiro woulf fix his back pain. I told him that it should, that it probably hurts because of how and where he sits all day and that at least he is not pregnant so its not as bad as it could be. He said that he would rub my back in a minute.
When I was done his massage, he didn't say thank you. I used the washroom and came back to bed. He said: Do you want me to rub your back or not. I said: you seem very tired so it can wait. He said: No, no, I'll do it now (again in a disenaged voice). He lightly patted my lower back haphazardly from 11:29 to 11:36 and then said: How's that?. It was not good or helpful at all. I simply replied. Thank you. I then tried to rub a kink out of my lower back and he said: Is it still hurting (What!! Do you really expect all the pain to leave after such a short and weak massage??) I simply said: I think the pain will only fully leave after I give birth. He started rubbing it again at 11:37 and stopped at 11:39 to give himself a handjob.
I mustered up all the energy and positive thoughts I could find and said: If you feel like sex, let me know. He said: Ahh, that always wakes you up. I replied as usual, I am already awake. He said: Still, you are sore, I said that it wouldn't make it worse. He said ok. He immediately pushed himself in me and started thrusting. He touched my breasts and after a while actually included me in the night's event. I went to clean up and he went to sleep.
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